Uncomfortable. Humiliating. Embarrassing. Those are just some of the words used to describe the experience of premature ejaculation. For men, it ranks up there with erectile dysfunction as one of the most common sexual dysfunctions out there.
But what causes premature ejaculation? Why is it that some men experience this while others don’t? And, what, if anything, can be done to fix this persistent problem that impacts roughly 39% of the male populace who are sexually active?
The truth is that there are few sexual experiences quite as embarrassing for men as premature ejaculation. But if you don’t know what’s causing it, it’s difficult to know how to address the issue. Like any other medical problem, knowledge truly is power.
Lifelong vs. Acquired Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation is the tendency for a man to ejaculate with little sexual stimulation, typically before sexual intercourse even begins or just after initiation.
However, there are two types of premature ejaculation. And, depending on the type that afflicts you, the treatment options will vary. And, while as embarrassing as it might seem, the best option is always to consult with your physician if you’re experiencing premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction of any sort.
- Lifelong premature ejaculation
- Acquired premature ejaculation
The names are self-explanatory–lifelong premature ejaculation is a lifelong problem that has existed since puberty, whereas acquired premature ejaculation means that you started to suffer later in life where you didn’t have any problems previously.
Lifelong cases are most often psychological in nature, whereas acquired cases may be psychological or physiological.
Common Causes of Premature Ejaculation
Knowing that, let’s take a closer look at some of the most common causes of premature ejaculation and how to deal with it.
1. Performance Anxiety
Among the most frequent culprits is a common problem: performance anxiety.
Sexual performance anxiety is a messy mental cocktail that leads to the same result: a self-fulfilling prophecy. Basically, you worry about performing poorly so much that you’re not focused on performing, and therefore, perform poorly.
It’s more complicated than that and can include factors such as:
- Fear that you won’t perform well in bed and satisfy your partner (obviously)
- Worry that your penis won’t “measure up”
- Concern about ejaculating too early
- Concern about ejaculating too late
- Anxiety about not being able to have an orgasm
- Anxiety about not being able to enjoy the experience
Funny, isn’t it, how anxiety finds a way of proving itself true?
In any case, anxiety (performance-related or otherwise) has a harsh impact on the body, including an increased risk of high blood pressure and cardiovascular problems, long-term exposure to cortisol (a stress hormone) resulting in weight gain, a weakened immune system, and digestive problems.
2. Relationship Issues
Many men (and women) don’t like to hear this, but sometimes, sexual problems aren’t related to anything biological, but rather due to a more common, unpleasant problem.
The reality is, it’s difficult to have enjoyable sex if you and your partner are having issues in other areas.
Take communication, for example.
Despite what Hollywood would have you believe, sex isn’t a magical parallel universe where suddenly partners are somehow magically in sync and know exactly what to do. It requires communication to get on the same page and reach a place that both of you find enjoyable.
If you’re having communication problems in other areas, how likely is it that you’ll voice discontent or anxiety in sexual situations? Not very.
Even something as simple as lack of preparation for sex (or lack of sufficient communication to prepare for sex) can result in problems, including premature ejaculation resulting from anxiety.
3. Prior History of Sexual Abuse
American society doesn’t talk much about men as victims of sexual abuse. There is a statistical reason for that–1 in 6 American women has been the victim of attempted or completed rape, compared to 1 in 33 American men.
However, male sexual abuse is a very real problem, with serious long-term psychological impacts on survivors.
Sexual abuse survivors try to put as much distance between themselves and their trauma as possible in order to carry on with their lives. For their entire lives, men are told not to show vulnerability, to never show emotions, to never ask for help, which puts male assault survivors in a uniquely toxic situation.
How does this relate to premature ejaculation?
Early or highly impactful (i.e. traumatic) sexual experiences can establish a pattern which connects sex with fear, anxiety, or a demand to perform quickly for fear of being caught. Alternately, there may be a drive to perform quickly in order to get the experience over with faster.
If a male sexual abuse survivor has processed their trauma and taken steps to reestablish healthy psychological associations with sex, premature ejaculation is one way to subconsciously mitigate the experience by halting sex as quickly as possible.
4. Biological Causes
We’ve spoken a great deal about psychological causes behind premature ejaculation, but there are some cases where biological causes can result in premature ejaculation.
- Thyroid problems
- Abnormal hormone levels
- Inflammation or infection of the reproductive system
- Nervous system damage
- Cardiovascular disease
- Drug abuse
If you think that biological causes may be a factor in your premature ejaculation, set up an appointment with a doctor to test for potential problems.
5. Erectile Dysfunction (or Worry Over It)
Finally, there are some cases where erectile dysfunction may play a role in premature ejaculation.
This falls into two categories:
- Erectile dysfunction due to physical problems getting or maintaining an erection
- Erectile dysfunction due to anxiety about getting or maintaining an erection
Whether physical or psychological, the net result is the same: premature ejaculation.
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