Yes, you can still enjoy sex with ED. Alpha Now gives you 11 pieces of advice on how you can proceed with your sex life even when you’re having a hard time getting it up. Keep reading to find out more.
In this article:
- Look at Sex with a New Perspective
- Focus on Pleasure and Arousal
- Engage Your Senses
- Rediscover Touch
- Reorient How You Achieve Sexual Satisfaction to Giving Pleasure
- Your Mouth Is the Greater Sexual Organ
- Talk with Your Partner More
- Calm Your Mind During the Act
- Look for Other Forms of Sexual Play
- Opt for Good Health Habits
- Keep Seeking Continuous Improvement
How to Enjoy Sex with ED: Flaccid Can Still Be Fun
1. Look at Sex with a New Perspective
Most men see their penis as the end-all and be-all of sex so erectile dysfunction can destroy their confidence in enjoying intercourse ever again. When ED happens, men should adopt a new point of view which prioritizes alternate ways of giving and gaining pleasure in sex aside from penetration.
This way of thinking can free men suffering from ED and give them the confidence they need to maintain their sex lives. ED might disable your main way of having fun in sex but it should not be a death sentence to your sex life.
2. Focus on Pleasure and Arousal
Men with ED can still get aroused despite their penises staying slack. This means they can still maximize their enjoyment of sex by focusing on the heightened feelings arousal can bring, and center on pleasure instead of outright copulation.
3. Engage Your Senses
The penis may be the primary erogenous zone for men but it’s not the only one. A sex life with ED can still be possible so long as men open up their view of sex as a multisensory experience.
Men can still enjoy the sights, sounds, smell of their partner while receiving pleasure in other areas aside from the penis.
4. Rediscover Touch
Speaking of erogenous zones, men can explore their sense of touch and render themselves open to the sensations of their partner’s skin on their skin. They should also become receptive and responsive to their partner’s touch.
You should talk to your partner about the kind of pressure you like and what areas of your body you like receiving touch. While you’re at it, you should also try using candles and massage oils to enhance your experience.
5. Reorient How You Achieve Sexual Satisfaction to Giving Pleasure
Men’s reliance on the penis for satisfying their partner can make sex dull and repetitive. The penis can be a one-note sexual tool, and even if it is erect, it cannot guarantee your partner orgasm.
If men cannot make their partner orgasm through their penis, they should shift their focus to finding out other ways their partner might orgasm. Men with ED might learn a thing or two from their partners on how to truly satisfy a woman in bed.
By pursuing this kind of thinking, you actually might end up discovering that ED is the greatest thing to happen to your sexual relationship.
6. Your Mouth Is the Greater Sexual Organ
Having sex with ED can mean the mouth will come into play more. Again, men should rely on the tools available to them when the penis is offline and the best instrument to take over happens to be the tongue.
For this to work, men should learn how to perform oral sex, and use their tongue to navigate their partner’s organ. Women love receiving oral sex, and cunnilingus can serve as the more potent way to make your partner orgasm than direct contact with your penis.
7. Talk with Your Partner More
Your partner also shoulders sex and erectile dysfunction issues since they share your bed. You should seek out your lover’s counsel on what works and what doesn’t so you can still give satisfaction during sex.
You should also talk to your partner about what pleases you and what things she does that excite you. Aside from better sex with ED, this open line of communication can improve your emotional intimacy with your partner.
8. Calm Your Mind During the Act
You might not be aware of it, but anxiety can cause erectile dysfunction during sex by undermining your confidence and raising your blood pressure. Panicking further can worsen the case of erectile dysfunction.
The best recourse when your penis turns flaccid suddenly would be to relax and see it as an opportunity of prolonging your sexual bonding.
9. Look for Other Forms of Sexual Play
When your main toy goes offline, you should try other sex toys for you and your partner to play with. You should experiment with feathers, handcuffs, and vibrators so you can continue having sex with ED.
You and your partner can also try introducing roleplaying into the mix. Maybe activating your fantasies during foreplay can satisfy you and even help you achieve an erection if it’s done to your liking.
10. Opt for Good Health Habits
Aside from anxiety, bad habits like excessive smoking or drinking can cause ED. You should try eliminating these vices to check if these will help you overcome ED.
11. Keep Seeking Continuous Improvement
Even when you have erectile dysfunction, you should still try your best to improve your condition by losing weight and exercising. Circulation problems cause ED so fixing this may help make your penis hard again.
You should also seek the advice of your doctor to resolve underlying medical issues behind your condition. Undiagnosed diseases like diabetes can sabotage erections so your doctor will need to eliminate any physical causes.
If the cause of erectile dysfunction is psychological, a sex therapist can help you modify your behavior and perception to help you gain the confidence to be erect again. In case the cause of your ED is physical, a sex therapist can still help by giving you advice on how to satisfy your partner through other means.
Sex with ED just might be better than sex with an erect penis if you look at the situation positively. Your mind, your touch, your hands, and your mouth can replace your penis in terms of giving pleasure to your partner and using them might just help you get the best sex yet.
If you have ED, what do you do to make sure you still satisfy yourself and your partner in bed? Give us your advice in the comments section below.